“You become. It takes a long time.  That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.

 Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.  

But these things don’t matter at all, because you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

-The Velveteen Rabbit

It seems many of us spend too much time on trying to be someone we are not.  Trying to please others for fear of letting them down.  Fear of letting yourself down.  Fear of appearing weak.  Fear of failing. What are you becoming right now in your life.  What do you wish to become?  Working to become someone for someone else, isn’t going to work.  You have to want to become the person you want to be.  Becoming brave. Becoming more compassionate. Becoming a better friend.  Becoming stronger. Becoming patient. Becoming more resilient. Becoming more tolerant. Becoming more honest. Becoming more assertive.  Becoming happier.  What is it that you want to become?  

After you lose someone, you often hear people say that time is a healer.  Honestly, that was the last thing I wanted to hear.  I guess that proves that I needed to become more patient, but when you are facing dark times, you want time to speed up and you want the madness to just end.  But, now I see that time was a healer, and time is also what you must pass through on your journey to becoming.

 Becoming is something that will take effort.  If you want to lose weight and get fit, but you put no effort into doing so, then you will see no results.  Just as it is with becoming the person you want to be.  If you want to become brave, then you must pass through those times of being scared.  Being scared, and still doing that thing that scares you, now that’s being brave.  Becoming resilient may mean passing through some hard times that you wish you never had to pass through.  But you will never know how resilient you can be until you pass through them.  Becoming a peaceful person will take time.  It took so much work and effort on my part to heal from anxiety, to achieve a more peaceful lifestyle.  While going through it, I just wanted it to end.  But there are lessons to be learned through every part of becoming that will be invaluable to your soul.  You will see truly what you are made of.  You will falter, and you may feel weak, and that’s ok.  Who isn’t weak sometimes.  We all are.  Everyone struggles on their path to victory.  But don’t you give up.  Don’t you give in.  Never forget that you are a miracle.  A miracle on this earth, who at times may be fearful and afraid, broken or confused, weak and uncertain, but a miracle who has the strength to carry on and become what you have always dreamed you could be.  Accept that it may take time.  Accept that you may be weak at times, but that does not mean that you are a weak person.  Take control of your life.  Be consistent in trying, and have faith in yourself.  Stop becoming what others expect you to be, but become what you wish to be.  You have a strength and a spirit inside of you that is waiting to come forth, for all to see.  Become and keep on becoming.  Never let the passion of becoming die in your soul.  There will never be another person like you on this Earth, so bring the gift of your magnificence into your life, and the life of those around you, and reap the rewards of what you have finally become.

Hope On. Journey On.

Jenna